10 Common Mistakes Men Make With Women
Over the years, I’ve heard a lot of pick-up lines — some incredibly cheesy and others borderline creepy. The most common mistakes men make while trying to impress women is not using the correct body language or tone, thus enabling women to pick up on their nervousness. It’s totally normal to feel a little anxious, but remember there’s someone out there who’s going to fall for your charm! Just make sure to avoid some of these common mistakes when talking to a girl.
Don’t become a social media stalker
You saw someone at a party and decided to send her a request on Instagram. Do so, but please don’t spam her with messages. Also, don’t go on ‘liking’ each and every one of her posts. If you’re going to stalk her, be subtle about it…don’t go so far back and like a picture from 2 years ago! If you over-do it, social media can ruin ruin your relationship before it even begins.
Trying to be too funny ruins the joke
You may have heard that women love men who make them laugh. Yes, they do. But it doesn’t mean you have to be a walking-talking joke book. Some common mistakes men make with women is that they do everything they can to make a girl laugh, even when the environment isn’t light and humorous. If humor is not your thing, please remain quiet. Be the strong, silent type. This is a no-brainer. You cannot, should not, must not crack a sex joke because it’s the cool thing to do. Especially if you are in the early stages of a potential relationship. Even if you are in a group, watch your words. Women may laugh at your supposed wit but it doesn’t mean they enjoy it. To put it politely, it might makes you come across a bit pervy.
No one likes a snob
There is a thin line between being cocky and being confident. Confidence is great asset for men and women but it turns into cockiness if you try to sound and act too smart. If you really want to impress women, don’t drop brand names just to sound cool. Don’t constantly talk about how your career is zooming. Don’t flaunt your knowledge of politics, sports, movies and food – women can tell when you’re faking it.
Learn to end a conversation
Opening a conversation is difficult, ending it is even more so! You aren’t winning any brownie points with her if you try to stretch the chat beyond reasonable limits. Keep it simple, say what you have to and then end it. For heaven’s sake, do not do the ‘what else’ or ‘tell me more’ routine. Dragging out a dead conversation is one of the mistakes that men make without realizing how desperate they sound.
She’s not your ‘babe’
You can dream of having one if you marry her but until then please address her by her name. The whole ‘babe’ fiasco is supremely annoying, especially if you are just getting to know her. ‘Babe’ is okay if you’re on super close terms, but wait to reach that level of familiarity. She can take this as one of the warnings signs you’re a clingy boyfriend.
Don’t be a simp
No, women aren’t looking to fall for the bad guy, but being too nice can make you, well, a little boring. Spare her the moony-eyed, puppy dog routine. Don’t insist on paying the bill if she wants to split it, don’t insist on driving her home even after she’s said no for the 12th time, and try and pick up on her body language to see if your behavior is putting her off.
Being too obvious with body language
Some common mistakes men make with women is that they are too obvious with their body language — they’re either too fidgety if they’re constantly wringing their fingers and putting them in their pockets, or they come across as too cocky if they cross their arms and lean in a lot when a woman is talking. It’s very important for men to master the art of body language in order to impress women, because sometimes your body can convey a message much better than words can.
Being too agreeable
Men think that women are sensitive creatures and will get annoyed with them if they don’t agree with every single thing they say. On the contrary, women love hearing different opinions and having discussions that will give them a new point of view. It’s normal to disagree on a lot of things, and it’s normal to argue about it, but that shouldn’t stop you from talking about new things. You must learn some tips on how to keep a conversation going with a girl.
Using too many pick-up lines
I had mentioned this before, but it can’t be said enough — don’t use cheesy pick-up lines to impress her. Girls hear pick up lines way too often and are sick and tired of being disappointed. Instead of being cheesy, try to woo her with your charm and intelligence.
Being too chivalrous
Yes, paying the bill and opening the car door for her is romantic, but after a point it gets annoying. Women want to be independent, so when they ask to split the cheque, don’t fight it, rather respect her wishes instead of sounding too overbearing. So these were some of the common mistakes men make while trying to impress women. The list can be much longer, but you get the gist of it! What did you think? Do men make more mistakes while trying to impress or is it the other way round and women get it wrong most of the times? Let us know in the comments!
