7 Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore
It is easier to fall in love as the butterflies blossom in your stomach and you feel the rush of colours flooding your life. All the metaphors and anecdotes you ever came across in the many expressions in literature, cinema, music, paintings and otherwise all seem to have not done the experience of love any justice. Love is a distinct experience of falling and one sooner or later understands the precipice. But what of falling out of love? Often we are so busy in our own emotional journey that we miss out on another’s emotional disconnect. How does one keep account of a partner’s emotions? How do you know that he has fallen out of love? Here are seven rough signs to find out if he is not that into you anymore. You could be in a relationship or you could be even married but if he has fallen out of love the signs will be the same.
1. He doesn’t have time for you anymore
It used to be a situation where he had time for you always and of late it seems like life is chasing him. Yes, there are sections in your life where your professional crisis can drive you to the point of absolute chaos, but it is that very disturbance that makes you crave a source of respite and succour. But if there is a lack of connect, a sense of separation, the disturbance in the relationship only adds to the general stress of life. Of course, do not assume too soon, but if there is a sudden change in his temperament and you sense that he refrains from finding time in his life for you, then it is not just because he is busy, but you are definitely not topping his priority list.
2. Isn’t interested in your life
Loving is also trying to locate each other in your individual stories and knowing more about it all. At the beginning of the relationship he was keener on knowing about your life and what was happening than anything else. Starting from a fight at the office to why you were looking blue, it was a source of curiosity for him. But of late, the interest regarding you is less and scooting towards a routine questionnaire and not a genuine intrigue that drives him.
3. He isn’t into sharing anymore
One of the most important parts of a relationship is sharing. And by sharing I don’t mean to say a childlike need to share every bit of chocolate you get or every moment in the day, but an open channel of thoughts and time that two people share because they enjoy the company and process. Earlier he would share all information about his life with you. All the nitty gritties at work and at home would be discussed but now he hardly talks about anything. You could know from his friends that he is up for a promotion, something that he didn’t bother to share with you. Or he got a new gizmo home and is swooning about it but you never knew anything about it. This means he is slowly withdrawing from the relationship and it’s a sign he does not love you anymore.
4. He doesn’t care to remember the small things
I don’t mean to say remembering the anniversary dates, because it just might be him and numbers not having a good relationship, and does not necessarily make a commentary about yours. But memory, as in remembering small things about you your likes and dislikes, things important to you, things that affect you, the smaller nuances of your person. When you lose interest in someone, the love dies slowly.
5. He wants alone time
How to know if he doesn’t love you anymore? Whatever time he gets from his busy schedule he wants to spend that at the gym, go on lone hiking trips or is at his cousin’s place. While you are cribbing and complaining that there is no together time anymore he is having a ball in his alone time and enjoying himself thoroughly. This means he does not need you to be a part of his life anymore and this is an absolute sign that he doesn’t love you anymore.
6. The phone is an extension of his self
When he doesn’t love you anymore your phone would be sitting silent on the table. Well, it is a time we accept the fact that we as human beings have incorporated our cell phones into our body like any other organ. The moment it goes missing from your hand your heart stops like you are about to have organ failure. In such a cyborg situation when a man is interested, still madly in love, he’d try to reach you via phone one way or the other. Be it a WhatsApp text, a Snapchat snap, a video call or whatever is the new jam, when the communication channels start closing up, know that it is time to send the relationship for an appraisal.
7. The relationship has changed
It is only the person in the relationship who can sense that something is out of place because every story is different. It would be impossible to completely formulate the way to track down the fading of communion, but it is the sixth sense that must be relied upon. You must give yourself some credit and rely on your senses, and you will know that the love is there but the space of exchange is vanishing. It might be time to call it the end. He loves you no longer so what’s the point of lugging a dead relationship.
