That has been proven by the experience of thousands of souls in love separated by miles from the one they love and crave. The distance does, indeed, limit you and your ways of expressing yourselves. However, once the love is there, the miles can be defeated easily! So, how to make your partner feel loved in a long-distance relationship? Your man can get the right or the wrong message from one single word that you sent him. Hence, we’re starting from the basics and eventually getting to what’s beyond the basics! Here are 24 wholesome ways of making a man feel loved in a long-distance relationship:
1. Be thoughtful with your communication
Communication is vital and fundamental when it comes to a healthy long-distance relationship. If you pay attention to your communication you’ll notice and learn better ways of expressing your love and affection, hence making your man feel more content and special within the long distance of your relationship. This way you build a stronger base for your connection to grow from making the love and affection between you flourish as time passes by.
2. Be supportive and encouraging
Support and courage are great ways of showing love and making a person feel special. Since you already have an emotional connection with him, support and courage will make him feel the connection even stronger. Hence, you automatically make him feel loved and cherished. A man feels appreciated in indirect ways as well. One of the strongest ways to make him feel this way is to support him and encourage him in whatever journey he’s taking.
3. Make him feel loved: Send him loving and affectionate texts
Verbal expressions of loving and affectionate words are yet another great and essential way of communicating love and affection to your partner. This plays an even more important role within long-distance relationships. Tell him how much he means to you, how much you love him, or how much you miss him. One of the few direct ways and options that you have to make him feel loved in a long-distance relationship, is this one. Make good use of it!
4. Put effort into your texts
Instead of effortless answers that lead to short-life conversations, you want to put effort into your texts. Take your time to write a positive and meaningful response to his text. It’s normal for the routine to do its thing and for you to surrender to an automatic response. A special conversation is built on a special connection and special responses instead of bland ones. Communication can build or ruin a relationship. Receiving and giving love to your partner can get chaotic if you don’t manage to let your guards down.Though letting your guard down is a tough decision to make after you’ve been challenged by life and its ways of giving us lessons…Professional advice can do wonders and it can be life-changing! A relationship hero for your tough times!
5. Plan a virtual date, a super-date
Keeping the connection strong takes effort indeed. Plan a super-date, a virtual one, and invite him to that date. Make a meal for yourself, order him his favorite meal, and have a video chat while you’re enjoying your delicious food. See, there’s plenty of space for creativity here. You can get playful, creative, and funny, you can make the most of it. This way you show him you care, hence automatically making him feel valued, loved, and special.
6. Get intimate with your communication
Intimacy isn’t physical only. Intimacy takes emotions and feelings involved. Thankfully, the internet and its uses don’t prevent you from showing this side of intimacy with your partner. Though it limits the ways and practices of intimacy, getting intimate emotionally and sexually isn’t an impossible mission. This means you can get involved in vulnerable conversations (such as hurtful memories, secrets, etc), sex-talking, or simply showing affection to one another.
7. Make your ‘good mornings’ special
A good day starts with a good morning! Well, since you can, make your “good morning” texts special. Make his mornings special. Get creative with it! Instead of sending him a plain “Good morning!” text, try something more pampering… “Good morning handsome!” or “Good morning, shining as always?” can do the work.
8. Use social media to show him your love
Making him smile isn’t as difficult as you think. Share the love you have for him with other people as well. This way he feels special and loved as well. Making a post for him can be a way of expressing your appreciation and the love you’ve got for him. Of course, this has to come to you naturally and unforced. If you feel like making him feel special with a sweet post on your social media about him, then do so.
9. Listen to what he has to say
The key to a healthy long-distance relationship is healthy communication. Listening to what he has to say, being curious about it, and being able to listen to his worries without being judgemental play a crucial role in how he feels. This, especially considering that your relationship is long-distance and it mostly relies on verbal communication rather than non-verbal and physical.
10. Don’t spare pictures of yourself
Sending pictures of yourself to your long-distance partners is yet another awesome way of making them special! This way you update him on the changes, yet you also help on building the connection stronger with him. On the other hand, a picture for him only is a great way of telling him how special of a place he has in your heart.
11. Send him something surprising
Be it a funny text or a gift delivered to his doorstep, find something meaningful to surprise him. Long distance relationships are known to be challenging due to the physical distance and its limitations to your behavior and expressions. However, you can find ways to connect further and make one another feel loved by doing small meaningful things such as pleasant surprises now and then. A picture, a text to tell him how much you love him, or a gift at his doorstep. It’s entirely up to you and your preferences as a couple and individuals.
12. Make him feel secure
Men need to feel security within relationships as well. One of the best ways to make a man feel loved in a long-distance relationship is by offering him security and safety within the relationship. You do that by keeping the communication genuine, making yourself a safe space for him to open up, and having him know how much he means to you.
13. Be there for him when he needs you
Being there for someone when they need you doesn’t necessarily mean physically being there. You can be there to support him morally and emotionally when needs that type of support. Be there to talk to him when he needs a talk. Being there for him will make him feel loved, supported, and cared for. It’s fundamental.
14. Tell him what you admire about him
There are plenty of sweet ways to compliment him. However, a genuine way of making him feel special is to simply tell him what you admire about him. Having this in mind, you’ll have an easier time expressing your admiration and the good things you see in him. Keep in mind that giving him this validation is a more direct way of expressing your love to him, hence making him feel more loved and appreciated.
15. Get creative with it: make good use of the internet
It’s understandable for the relationship to be challenging. The distance truly limits your way of expression, that’s undeniable. However, another good side of this is that the internet also offers you a lot of possibilities to express love and its forms. You can get creative with pictures, messages (e.g. a surprise message he might not be expecting), songs, gifs, movies, or even gifts that you can get online and send him online.
16. Make yourself a safe space for him
Showing him that you’re a safe space for him and his vulnerabilities is yet another great way of making him feel loved. This often comes naturally as your bond and connection grow stronger. You make yourself a safe space for him by showing him you’re not judgemental, showing him you’re capable of listening to him, and showing him your faith and sincerity. This way you bring yourselves emotionally closer hence defeating the distant miles between you.
18. Get his love language
Knowing your partner’s love language plays a crucial role in the way you express love to him but also in the way you perceive love from him. Getting his love language or understanding his love language will be a tremendous help to you! Firstly, you’ll make the miles disappear and have him emotionally closer to you; And secondly, you’ll have an easier time making him feel loved despite the miles.
19. Make a unique gift for him for when you meet up
A meaningful gift as a way of marking a milestone in your long-distance relationship can be a very unique way of making him feel special. Giving him something you wouldn’t normally give to another person will automatically make him feel that special place he holds in your heart. Make a gift that has meaning, and put effort and thought into it. It can be an album of pictures, each holding a special message for him; It can be a diary with a note for each day of the year, Or it can be a handmade gift themed with something particular that he loves.
20. Call him sometimes
Our life dynamics are very fast-paced these days. It’s normal not to have time to ‘voice/video call’ every day. However, beat the standard, and be the one to call him just because you miss hearing his voice. Men are not very much used to that. And he’ll surely love a call from his partner that lets him know how much she missed his voice!
21. Tell him you love him
What better way of making him feel loved and special than directly telling him you love him? Remind him of your love from time to time, text him a sweet text, and confess your love for him. This way you make room for him to also feel more comfortable expressing himself as well.
22. Respect his time alone
Being clingy is a sign of possession and a desire to own him as a person. We all need our ‘me time’ alone and not attached to another person. When he needs such time to be alone and rest his mind a little, respect that. You make him feel special by showing him respect and understanding instead of demanding and requiring something from him no matter his needs.
23. Show him you care about him
Showing him that you care about him can be challenging in long-distance relationships, however, it’s not a difficult mission! You can show him you care about him by being considerate of what he has to say, paying attention to what he likes and what he dislikes, doing your best not to hurt him, and showing him you’re faithful to him. It is about the little things, the way you pay attention to him, and the way you take your time to understand him. It’s in the little things, as little as a sweet goodnight text, so pay attention. Show him care and love.
24. Send him sweet notes
A sweet note to start his day will make him feel like a special man! It can be something silly, an inside joke that only you two understand, or a simple line of telling him ‘what you’d do to him’. You can start lightly, and then up the game as you get comfortable with it. Have him melt from the sweetness of your messages, get real with it. Make his day sweeter whenever you can.
Things you can text your long-distance boyfriend to make him feel special – 10 texts to melt his heart
After understanding the theoretical part of this issue, it’s time for us to take a look at the practical part! Here are 10 texts you can send your long-distance boyfriend to melt his heart:
- Send him a song and write “This, this is your song, babe. I’ll think of you every time I hear it…”
- “Good morning! I’m sending you kisses and hugs. You’ll rock at work today, I know!”
- “I miss you.”
- “How dare you to be this handsome!”
- Send him a picture of your empty side of the bed and write “This is where you’d be lying if we were together today.”
- “Wanna guess what we’d do if you were here tonight?”
- “What I’d give to see you today!”
- “Saying you’re handsome is an understatement. It’s starting to get hot here…”
- “Yes, you’re holding my hand. Oh wow, you’re taking my clothes off! Wanna guess what you did next?”
- “Tell me, baby. How did your day go?”
- “I can’t stand to know that you’re not doing well, but I’ll be here for you to listen and support you. I’m here for you. I love you.”
So, did we make him feel special or what?
You can make a man feel loved over a long distance through your little gestures, your way of communication, and your way of expressing yourself when you talk to him. Keep in mind to be thoughtful, and have his needs considered before you make a demand or requirement from him. See the relationship as a partnership instead of a source of pleasure for yourself. You’re in this together. He misses you just as much as you miss him. Take your time to show your affection and love properly. You’ve got this! Love, Callisto