1. Sometime you do it just for him
Doing each other favours in bed is just as regular as otherwise. If you think that you can please him this one time even if you are not in the mood, just go ahead and do it. There are times when I am horny but my partner is not because of a long day work, yet he helps me to satisfy my urge. It is not necessarily intercourse; it could just be foreplay or as simple as jerking him off.
2. Watch porn together
If you think that you may feel unhappy after giving in to his wants, the best way to quench his “thirst” is to watch porn together. In some cases, the demonstration of the activity may start on you, but if you are smart you’ll navigate his energy on the video and just allow him to jerk off while you caress him gently. There have been nights when he has woken me up for sex, but then I was just too sleepy to think of sex. I figured if I watch porn with him and keep him interested in it, I’ll be able to escape such times. Luckily it worked for me. Ladies, you can try the same!
3. Rework your schedules
But just for how long can you do such things? After 8 months of not having sex, I realized that this was not helping. When I was horny, he wasn’t and when he was I wasn’t. Many of you could be saying my husband is horny but I am not. I figured there was nothing wrong with either of us, it was just the timing. I started matching my timings to his by reworking on my daily timetable. For example, I started going to bed at the time he would, instead of walking into the bedroom alone. You can see what time suits both of you best. This is the best way to deal with a horny boyfriend.
4. What if one person is always horny
Sujeet has a very high libido and Adisha, his girlfriend, struggles to understand how to satisfy his “above normal” urge to have sex. She says, “I have tried everything, but there are times when I don’t wish to have sex and he always wants it. In fact today we have reached a place where we are friends but not dating each other anymore.” When I asked Sujeet about how he deals with his horniness, he explains, “If I want to have sex, what’s the big deal? I want a girlfriend who is equally sexually active. With Adisha, after having spent 6 months together, I was told that she does not want to have sex as much as I want and that’s when we decided that we’ll be just friends. I go to see her often and we do have sex occasionally, but then we are no longer in a relationship.” From Sujeet’s story, I understood that there might even be a breakup involved when he’s horny but I ain’t.
5. Introspect to find out why
If you keep giving him the excuse of being tired, then you need to really introspect and find out the real reason why you are always tired. Maybe you are not sleeping well, or there could be some stress or tension you are going through. It’s best in such cases to speak to him instead of snapping at him for being horny. There was a time when I used to always be tired and every time he wanted to have sex, I would turn my face away and ask him to cut it out. This started happening almost on a regular basis. It is not always his fault for being horny. What I have learnt is that everyone is horny, but it is to be compared with the degree of libido of your partner and discover why there is a gap in his and your level.
